Jasmina Tešanović u tekstu “Last Tango by Bertolucci” ( https://jasminatesanovic.wordpress.com/2013/09/24/last-tango-by-bertolucci/) priča priču o filmu “Podslednji Tango” Bernarda Bertolučija i tome kako je nasilje prema ženama toliko normalizovano da se čak niko ni ne uzbuđuje oko toga čak i kad imamo izjavu Bertolučija samog:

”This idea came to me and Brando while we were having breakfast… at a certain point he started spreading butter on his baguette, we immediately exchanged the glances of accomplices… We decided not to say anything to Maria, in order to have her reaction more real, not that of an actress but of a young woman… She cries, screams, she feels hurt. And in some way she was hurt, because I never told her that the scene of sodomy would happen, but that pain was useful for the movie. I don’t think she would have reacted in this way if she knew. These are serious things, but this is also a way to make movies: provocations are sometimes more important than explanations. And in this way you also achieve a sort of atmosphere, which I would not be able to make otherwise. Maria was twenty. All her life she was bearing a grudge towards me, because she felt used. Unfortunately it happens when you are in the middle of an adventure you don’t understand. She had no means to filter what was happening to her. Maybe I was guilty, but nobody can take me to the court for this.”

Jasmina o zlopotrebi integriteta koje žene zaslužuju nad sobom i svojim telom komentariše:

“No doubt the great maestro was aiming for some spontaneous affect. Is this cruel behavior supposed to benefit art somehow? It’s someone else’s adventure at the cost of a woman’s integrity.
And what if these women were men instead? Raped for the sake of a good shot!And what if the scene turned to be lousy, or the movie a still born ? Or if these woman were wives, sisters and daughters of the genius…”

Dok sam to čitala osetila sam da nešto nije baš u redu sa ovom poslednjom rečenicom. “Šta da su to bile supruge, sestre ili ćerke ovih genija?”

Odgovor na to je I NJIMA BI SE TO DESILO!

Jer, ako zastupamo stanovište da se ono što se desilo Mariji Šnajder – danas može kvalifikovati kao silovanje – kako to onda da ženama poput nje oduzimamo taj isti integritet, pokušavajući da idemo na ruku muškarcima poput Bertolučija – koji će preko toga rado preći jer smatraju da ima to pravo da naruše nečiji integritet zarad umetnosti. Verujem da bi taj čovek to uradio i nekoj ženi s kojom ima neke bliže relacije, koja nije samo glumica u njegovom filmu. Zašto nazivati onda ove žene nečijim suprugama, majkama, sestrama i ćerkama?

Upozoriću na nekoliko stvari u vezi sa ovakvim argumentovanjem protiv nasilja nad ženama.

Kako da definišemo ženu a da to ne bude RELACIONO? Ilustracija sa ove fotografije je sa http://thatu.tumblr.com/post/58075318808/noshoes-noworries

Potom činjenica da se najviše silovanja dešava u ženama poznatoj sredini gde su one i te kako nečije majke, ćerke, supruge, sestre.

“Strah od silovanja sastavni je deo svakodnevnice žena u većini zemalja ovog sveta. One ograničavaju svoje polje delovanja i kretanja i traže zaštitu muškaraca. Ipak, pretpostavka koja izaziva strah kod većine žena, dakle, biti silovana u mračnoj uličici od strane nepoznate osobe, u praksi je relativno redak slučaj. Mnogo češće silovanja i seksualna zadovoljenja nad ženama dešavaju se u poznatoj socijalnoj okolini.”

(o tome post ovde: https://www.facebook.com/ZeneSaInterneta/posts/158679237612746 )

I ovo nam je jako bitno, jer smo svesne da same nismo imune na patrijarhat:

“Patrijarhalno ozračje je, otprilike, kao radijacija: nit je vidiš, niti čuješ, nit miriše, a ovamo razara.”

( o tome post ovde: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=343711379088598

Ne upotrebljavajmo ovakav relacioni argument protiv nasilja nad ženama. On nas samo vraća u poziciju žena na koje svi ostali polažu svoje pravo osim nas samih.

via Žene sa Interneta